I’m Alexa
I’m interested in what happens when you stop living from the neck up.
I’m a coach, sexologist, embodiment practitioner, personal trainer, creator, streamer, martial
artist, and lifelong student of the human experience.
My work lives somewhere between sexuality, embodiment, strength, psychology, pleasure,relationships and personal freedom.
And honestly, I’ve never been very good at putting myself into one box.
I’ve studied yoga and meditation in India, spent years exploring tantra and embodiment across Asia, trained in sexuality and coaching, worked with clients, built businesses, competed in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, and somehow ended up streaming my life on the internet while also trying to
figure out stand-up comedy.
I want to understand what makes people feel fully alive
How I got here
A lot of my work began with questions about sexuality and attraction.
I started looking much deeper into my own patterns: attachment, childhood experiences, sexuality, desire, femininity and masculinity, and the ways we learn to relate to ourselves and other people.
That exploration changed the way I understood attraction.
I became particularly interested in polarity, sexual dynamics and the relationship between inner embodiment and external attraction.
I eventually began coaching men who wanted to feel more confident and at ease in dating, understand attraction, communicate better, move beyond patterns like the “friend zone,” and develop a stronger relationship with their own masculine identity and sexuality.
But the deeper I went, the less interested I became in teaching people how to perform attraction. I became much more interested in helping people understand themselves.
Because confidence that depends on a technique is fragile. Embodiment is different.
I became fascinated by the things people rarely learn how to talk about properly:
- Why are we attracted to certain people and not others?
- Why can someone want us deeply and somehow make us want them less?
- Why do we chase people who give us almost nothing?
- Why do we sometimes struggle to receive the very love, intimacy and connection we say we want?
- And why can changing the way we relate to ourselves completely change what we experience in relationships?